Okay. Soooooo, I viewed a friend’s latest blog entry and I just realized how s****y mine was. Haha!
While his work talked about life’s good vibes, mine focused on delusions, illusions and realities. My write-up was no good unlike his.
So now, let me do the happy talk. 😉
In a study made by Glenn Jenson (a Family and Human Development professor and extension specialist at the Utah State University) in 2001, people who feel loved, or when it’s reciprocated, live longer, happier, have better health and make more money. Not only do they have a better life expectancy, they also get to live a healthier lifestyle.
Relationships do have a big say in one’s life disposition.
But what if you’re in a state right now where you feel like the walls are closing in on you? To say things easier, can love still be found even when the heart aches?
Heartaches. Heartbreaks. Sad, indeed.
Let’s say that you are facing a dilemma right now, and you feel like giving up. It really is hard to let go of something which you held on to for so long.
1.”I wish he knew.”
“I wish she knew.”
Let destiny work its wonders… although we should never be complacent.
2. A picture of a happy family.
Behind the smiles are tears of sadness.
Mom and Dad stay together just for the kids.
3. Boy meets girl.
Girl meets boy.
Boy likes girl.
It’s love on a one-way street.
We may be caught in our own twilight zone, where sadness eats all the humanity inside us.
However, we have a choice.
Why frown when you can smile?
Why give all your love to one person who can’t love you back, when others deserve it the most?
Why be sad when you can choose to be happy?
I may not be in the best position to force people to stop their sadness mania, but wouldn’t it be nice to see everyone wearing a sincere smile coming from the heart? 🙂
Think: this too shall pass.
Think: everything’s gonna be alright.
Think: I’m going to be fine.
For what its worth, you deserve to be happy.
We all do. 🙂
No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
Haha. I think this is not as crappy compared to what I have written last night. 😀
Have you ever noticed that same feeling you get when watching a fairytale movie? Disney films have a good way of plucking the heartstrings of its viewers. Everytime I see how the prince rescues the damsel in distress; how the villagers rejoice when their kingdom recovers from the wicked villain; how the plot takes a sharp twist towards the end of the story which makes me mouth “Oh-my-freaking-god-how-did-that-happen” – the more I realize how some of my dreams require more than hard work and perseverance for them to turn into realities.
I bet you played “Let’s Pretend” several times when you were younger. I did too! It was fun, wasn’t it? Round up a few of your playmates and create your own film, kingdom, classroom or sari-sari store. When we were kids, little did we know that the roles we simulated were actually big. Most girls would fight over who would play the role of “Mother” in Bahay-bahayan. Little boys would do the “maalis taya” method to see who gets to be the “Father” of the house. In short, we were just too giddy to grow up. We were too excited to be called “teens”.
We were so caught up with the realization that we do not want to pretend anymore.
And then it happened…
We grew up.
We opened our eyes to a world so much different when we were kiddos. Some found delight in today’s trends. For some, the horror.
The roles we used to fantasize back then are just beyond our reach. The brave souls dared to play in real life, while there are still few who are in doubt whether they would take a dip in the hot water.
Say that you could use a wish right now, what would you ask for?
Destiny. Fate. God’s perfect plan.
But we can’t always live the fairytale kind of life.
Broke someone else’s trust?I did as well.
Made promises and never made them happen? I had my share, too.
You screwed up? I screwed up.
Trapped in the fragile little bodies before, who among us knew what responsibilities and complications meant?
In the land of make believe, nothing will hold you from living the dream you always had in mind.
In the world of reality, you have to weigh your options and later on opt not only for your benefit, but for others as well.
In the land of make believe, you could say what you want and need to say.
In the world of reality, you think twice before uttering words.
In the land of make believe, you get what you want, easy as 123.
In the world of reality, you struggle and fight for your desires and needs.
In the land of make believe, “you and me” is a possibility.
In the world of reality, chances are… there’s only “you” and “me”.
So where on earth can I find the Land of Make Believe? 😐
“We don’t take photographs of things that don’t mean anything to us. “
I am such a weheartit baby. The pics there are just way too awesome.
Thanks Santino del Castillo for the bubbly picture. 🙂
Here’s the complete version of “Date A Girl Who Reads”. I wonder who wrote this? Genius, I must say.
Oh and by the way, the last line just makes this article out of this world. 😉
Date A Girl Who Reads
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.
Thanks to Marielle Castro, who gave me this copy the other day.
This write-up is lovingly posted for Rica Casabuena (special request oh!),
…for all suckers for love stories out there who find happy endings in books…
… and for all the hopeless romantics who write their star-crossed dreams in papers. 😉
The heat is on!!!!
(Well, it’s actually raining outside while I’m writing this.)
My summer vacay has officially kicked off, and and I bet this would be the busiest ever. Finally, I would be giving “travel writing” a go!
One cool thing about being a teacher is that you get to have your break too. This perk allowed me to set dates and plan for busy days ahead.
Of course, nothing beats my desire to stay at home, here in Quezon City… but I just can’t wait to explore the wonders of Batangas, Bohol, and Zambales. I can’t wait to have my jaw-dropping moments!
If the weather cooperates, a quick stop in this epic surfing spot would be neat also. 😉
Excited. That’s me. 😀
Get ready, travel buddies. Our ____ days of summer starts now.